Posts Tagged ‘Violence and Abuse’

Most members of unhealthy family models oscillate between extremes of behavior choosing, mostly unconsciously, whichever behavior promises the greatest chance of surviving the moment.  You may see many of the following extremes in youth in your ministries.  It’s important to understand that these behaviors are functional and serve a purpose for these kids.  Understanding that [...]

If the student was a follower/supporter of the bully: Intervene Immediately Provide a system of graceful accountability while allowing natural consequences to occur Create opportunities to “do good” Nurture empathy Teach friendship skills – assertive, respectful, and peaceful ways to relate to others Monitor/Criticize/Converse about TV shows, movies, music, and video games that reinforce violence [...]

Four Reasons for not intervening: 1.  The bystander is afraid of getting hurt himself.  The bully is bigger and stronger and has a reputation that justifies the fears; so jumping into the melee doesn’t appear to be a smart thing to do.   2.  The bystander is afraid of becoming a new target of the [...]

The following is a list of warning signs that a student may be getting bullied.  Please make a copy, edit it, be creative, add artwork or whatever, but place it publicly where your students can see it.  Consider making a copy and editing it for your parent’s newsletter/email.   Shows an abrupt lack of interest [...]

This is the first in a series of post exploring the complex issue of bullying in all of its various forms. The Ways and Means of Bullying   1.            Verbal Bullying (boys & girls equally use this)   2.            Physical Bullying (mostly boys)   3.            Relational Bullying (mostly girls)   4.            Cyber-Bullying (boys & girls [...]

Young men and boys may develop the following personlity characteristics, that can lead to violence, as part of male sex-role training: Sense of right Engendered in males is the idea that they may hurt or kill or enforce justice, right worngs and punish.  A man is taught that he is doing what is necessary and correct [...]

According to United States Department of Justice statistics – Uniform Crime Report and Bureau Statistic 89.0% of those arrested for all violent crimes were men. 87.5% of those arrested for murder were men. 98.8% of forcible rapes we committed by men. 91.9% of robberies were committed by men. 86.7% of those arrested for aggravated assaults [...]

Conversations on the Fringe vehemently opposes bullying of any kind.  When what we say and do to another person causes so much pain and suffering that the only option they can come up with is to end their own life, that is a travesty!  We mourn the loss of Billy Lucas 15, Asher Brown 13, [...]

If you have worked with youth for any period of time you have encountered a student who discloses, for the first time, that they are the victim of abuse, that they engage in some form of at-risk behaviors, are contemplating suicide, or a myriad of other statements/behaviors that require acute attention.  But often in our ministry training we [...]

Child abuse is more than bruises or broken bones. While physical abuse is shocking due to the scars it leaves, not all child abuse is as obvious. Ignoring children’s needs, putting them in unsupervised, dangerous situations, or making a child feel worthless or stupid are also child abuse. Regardless of the type of child abuse, [...]