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Almost inevitably, family members and friends are drawn into the painful world of suicide. In light of the numerous cases of suicide over the last month we think it would be helpful to give some guidelines for families and friends of those who struggle with suicidal ideation.
If a family member or friend is acutely suicidal, it may be necessary to take away their credit cards, car keys, and checkbooks and to be supportive but firm in getting them to an emergency room or walk-in clinic. If the person is violent, it may be necessary to call the police. These are difficult things to do but often essential.
The National Depressive and Manic-Depressive Association, a national patient-run advocacy and support group based in Chicago, makes the following specific recommendations to family members and friends who believe someone they know is in danger of committing suicide:
There are several excellent advocacy and research organizations, many of which have patient and family support groups with suicide prevention and mental illness.
If you or someone you love is suicidal, we recommend contacting the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline toll-free at 800-273-8255. Additional crisis and suicide hotlines are available in the category below, Crises and Suicide.
American Social Health Association: Sexually Transmitted Disease Hotline
CDC AIDS Information
AIDS Info: Treatment, Prevention and Research
National AIDS Hotline
Al-Anon for Families of Alcoholics
Alcohol and Drug Helpline
Alcohol Treatment Referral Hotline
Alcohol & Drug Abuse Hotline
National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence Hopeline
Child Help USA National Child Abuse Hotline
CRISIS AND SUICIDE
Girls & Boys Town National Hotline
National Hopeline Network
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
(800) 273-TALK (8255)
National Youth Crisis Hotline
(800) 442-HOPE (4673)
National Domestic Violence Hotline
National US Child Abuse Hotline
American Association of Poison Control Centers
America Social Health: STD Hotline
Eating Disorders Awareness and Prevention
Teen Help Adolescent Resources
Planned Parenthood Hotline
(800) 230-PLAN (230-7526)
RAPE AND SEXUAL ASSAULT
Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN)
National Domestic Violence/Child Abuse/ Sexual Abuse
Abuse Victim Hotline
National Runaway Switchboard
National Hotline for Missing & Exploited Children
Child Find of America
National Institute on Drug Abuse Hotline
National Help Line for Substance Abuse
Beck (1963, 1964) noted the way depressed patients interpreted their current life experiences. The depressed person tended to distort their experiences; they misinterpreted specific, irrelevant events in terms of personal failure, deprivation, or rejection; they tended to greatly exaggerate or overgeneralize any event that bore any semblance of negative information about themselves; they also tended to obsess over making indiscriminate, negative predictions of the future. It is important to note that the depressed person’s cognitions reflect a systematic bias against oneself. Because of this overemphasis of negative data to the relative exclusion of positive data, the label “cognitive distortion” is most appropriate when describing the thinking of depressed persons.
When an individual suffers from cognitive distortions they develop other idiosyncratic negative thematic content not observed in those of nondepressed persons. This is referred to as the Triad of Depression.
A negative view of self. The depressed individual shows a marked tendency to view himself/herself as deficient, inadequate, unworthy, and to attribute their unpleasant experiences to a physical, mental, or moral defect in himself/herself. Furthermore, they regard themselves as undesirable and worthless because of their presumed defects and tends to reject himself/herself (and to believe others will reject him/her) because of it.
A negative view of the world. His/Her interactions with the environment are interpreted as representing defeat, deprivation, or disparagement. He/She views the world as making exorbitant demands on him/her and presenting obstacles which interfere with the achievement of his/her life goals.
A negative view of the future. The future is seen from a negative perspective and revolves around a series of negative expectations. The depressed person anticipates that his/her current problems and experiences will continue indefinitely and that he/she will increasingly burden significant others in his/her life.
I can name countless students who present in our ministries like this every day. What are we doing, teaching, and modeling that would challenge the negative views of themselves, their world, or their future? The triad exists when there is no hope. Are we telling a story that communicates that there is hope for our personal redemption (through Christ), reconciliation in our relationship (with the Father), and a guiding, sustaining presence when times get dark (by the Spirit)?
They referred to an article in the Huffington Post about photos of models that have been touched up to make the model look thinner.
As a father of three young girls I’m concerned that when they see the touched up photos they compare and contrast themselves to a fictional image. We have got to continue to pull back the curtain on these tricks of the trade or our girls will kill themselves striving for something that is impossible.
Now I know this may sound fanatical but we work first hand with young girls who suffer from image distortions and eating disorders. It’s no wonder they struggle so much when confronted with images such as this.
Here’s a great song by Jonny Diaz called “More Beautiful You” that speaks to this same issue: