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NEW SERIES:  I am going pull the curtain back on my failures over the years in youth ministry in an attempt to serve as a warning to those just entering the field.  I have made my fair share of mistakes for all of us and wisdom often comes from reflecting on those mistakes.  So, here [...]

Return from Hiatus

Posted: May 17, 2012 in Uncategorized

After taking some time off from blogging we’re getting back into the game.  Look for new posts coming soon.

2011 in review

Posted: January 2, 2012 in Uncategorized

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2011 annual report for this blog. Here’s an excerpt: The concert hall at the Syndey Opera House holds 2,700 people. This blog was viewed about 13,000 times in 2011. If it were a concert at Sydney Opera House, it would take about 5 sold-out performances for that many [...]

  We’re taking a brief hiatus while we’re in Chicago for the first annual KidMin Conference, hosted by Group Publishing.  We’ll be joining Patti Gibbons and a few others to provide Simply Soul Care for KidMin staff and volunteers.  Please join us this week in supporting those who serve our kids in their faith development.  What you [...]

“We cannot love issues, but we can love people, and the love of people reveals to us the way to deal with issues.” “When peacemaking is based on fear it is not much different that warmaking.” “Only those who deeply know that they are loved and rejoice in that love can be true peacemakers.” “Prayer [...]

When working with kids, parents, volunteers, other staff most of our problems begin with a breakdown in communication.  Dr. Alan Godwin, a practicing psychologist certified in Alternative Dispute Resolution, writes in his book, “How to Solve Your People Problems” that when in conflict there are typically four types of problems we encounter and knowing which [...]

UYWI Reload 2011 – Chicago

Posted: March 28, 2011 in Uncategorized

Reload 2011 from North Park University on Vimeo. Reload Chicago is an exciting learning opportunity for urban youth workers.  This is an affordable, one day training event.  Reload will be hosted on the beautiful campus of North Park University.  We’ll be leading a workshop on how to minister to youth who have experienced abuse.  We’re [...]

If the student was a follower/supporter of the bully: Intervene Immediately Provide a system of graceful accountability while allowing natural consequences to occur Create opportunities to “do good” Nurture empathy Teach friendship skills – assertive, respectful, and peaceful ways to relate to others Monitor/Criticize/Converse about TV shows, movies, music, and video games that reinforce violence [...]

Four Reasons for not intervening: 1.  The bystander is afraid of getting hurt himself.  The bully is bigger and stronger and has a reputation that justifies the fears; so jumping into the melee doesn’t appear to be a smart thing to do.   2.  The bystander is afraid of becoming a new target of the [...]

The following is a list of warning signs that a student may be getting bullied.  Please make a copy, edit it, be creative, add artwork or whatever, but place it publicly where your students can see it.  Consider making a copy and editing it for your parent’s newsletter/email.   Shows an abrupt lack of interest [...]