After a workshop I facilitated on working with kids who have been abused, an elderly woman approached me to ask me a question. She shocked me with the simplicity and depth of the question. Here’s what she said, “I love the kids in my community but I don’t know how to connect with the. I [...]
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The Art of Connecting with Kids on the Fringe
Posted: September 7, 2011 in Adolescent Development, Anxiety, Bullying, Depression, Divorce, Drug Abuse, Eating Disorders, emerging adults, Family, Grief, LGBTQ Youth, Mental Illness, Self-Injury, Sexual Abuse, Substance Abuse, Suicide, Teen Dating Violence, Teens, Youth Ministry, Youth With DisabilitiesTags: Fringe Kids
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Sex and Violence in Youth Ministry
Posted: August 23, 2011 in Bullying, emerging adults, extended adolescence, narcissism, Pornography, Sexual Abuse, Teen Dating Violence, TeensTags: Men, People, Sexuality, Women, Young Men (organization), Young Women
In today’s urban dating culture many express how frustrating and unsatisfied they are because dating patterns encourage young men to be aggressive and young women to be accommodating. Unfortunately, sex and violence are so intertwined for men that an easy separation is impossible. Violence is constantly glamorized and sexualized in the urban culture. The multibillion-dollar pornography industry [...]
Bullying (part 3): Text-Bullying And Mobile Technology
Posted: March 14, 2011 in Bullying, Technology, TeensTags: Anti-Defamation League, Bullying, Cyber-bullying, Mobile phone, MySpace, Science and Technology, sexting, text messaging
Adults are becoming more and more savvy about protecting kids from cyber bullying—harassment using technology, such as email, instant messaging, or social networking sites like MySpace, Facebook, and Twitter. But during the upcoming spring break, when kids have more unstructured time than usual, they are also at risk of exposure to bullying through text messaging [...]
Bullying (part 1): Profile Of A Bully
Posted: March 7, 2011 in BullyingTags: Bullying, Children and Young People, Cyber-bullying, Mobile phone, Violence and Abuse, Workplace Discrimination, Youth, YouTube
This is the first in a series of post exploring the complex issue of bullying in all of its various forms. The Ways and Means of Bullying 1. Verbal Bullying (boys & girls equally use this) 2. Physical Bullying (mostly boys) 3. Relational Bullying (mostly girls) 4. Cyber-Bullying (boys & girls [...]
Violence Is A Male Problem (part 1 of 2)
Posted: January 5, 2011 in Bullying, Teen Dating ViolenceTags: Arrest, Domestic violence, People, Teen Dating Violence, Violence, Violence and Abuse, Women
According to United States Department of Justice statistics – Uniform Crime Report and Bureau Statistic 89.0% of those arrested for all violent crimes were men. 87.5% of those arrested for murder were men. 98.8% of forcible rapes we committed by men. 91.9% of robberies were committed by men. 86.7% of those arrested for aggravated assaults [...]
A Prayer When I Feel Hated
Posted: December 1, 2010 in Bullying, Depression, LGBTQ Youth, Suicide, TeensTags: Christianity, Evangelism, God, Holy Spirit, James Martin, Jesus, My Life With the Saints, Religion and Spirituality
Loving God, you made me who I am. I praise you and I love you, for I am wonderfully made, in your own image. But when people make fun of me, I feel hurt and embarrassed and even ashamed. So please God, help me remember my own goodness, which lies in you. Help me remember [...]
The Importance Of Harmonious Peer Relationship
Posted: October 14, 2010 in Adolescent Development, Bullying, Teens, Youth MinistryTags: Child, Children Youth and Family, Crime, Elementary school, God, Health, Jesus, Peer group
Just how important is it for human beings to establish and maintain harmonious relationships with their peers? Apparently it is very important. One recent review of more than 30 studies revealed that youngsters who had been rejected by their peers during grade school are much more likely that those who had enjoyed good peer relations to drop [...]
Mad As Hell
Posted: October 5, 2010 in Bullying, LGBTQ Youth, Suicide, TeensTags: Billy Lucas, Bullying, Fringe, George Washington Bridge, Rutgers University, Suicide, Violence and Abuse, Youth
Conversations on the Fringe vehemently opposes bullying of any kind. When what we say and do to another person causes so much pain and suffering that the only option they can come up with is to end their own life, that is a travesty! We mourn the loss of Billy Lucas 15, Asher Brown 13, [...]
Stigma, Identity, and Risk in LGBT Youth
Posted: July 15, 2010 in Addiction, Adolescent Development, Bullying, Depression, Drug Abuse, LGBTQ Youth, Substance Abuse, Suicide, Teens, Youth MinistryTags: LGBT, Teens
LGBT youth have the same developmental tasks as their heterosexual peers, but they also face additional challenges in learning to manage a stigmatized identity. This extra burden puts LGBT youth at increased risk for substance abuse and unsafe sexual behaviors and can intensify psychological distress and risk for suicide. Studies of more recent generations of lesbian and gay youth [...]
Bullying: Everyone Plays A Role
Posted: May 27, 2010 in Adolescent Development, Bullying, LGBTQ Youth, Parenting, Teen Dating Violence, Teens, Uncategorized, Youth Ministry, Youth With DisabilitiesTags: Bullied, Bully, Bullying, School Violence, Teen Dating Violence, Teens, Victims
Most of the time when we think of bullying we only see two parties as being involved; the bully and the bullied. Olweus theory suggests that everyone plays a role in bullying. If this is true then to combat bullying would require a collaborative effort by all parties. Below is a diagram of the various parties [...]
