In Tim Elmore’s book, “iY - Our Last Chance To Save Their Future”, Tim describes different types of parenting styles that are less than helpful. As I reflect on my youth ministry experiences I clearly see many of the following: Helicopter Parents - they hover too close to the kids at all times. Karaoke Parents - they try [...]
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Have You Seen These Parents?
Posted: June 15, 2011 in Adolescent DevelopmentTags: Child, Family, Helicopter parent, Home, Parent
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Gender Biased Vocabulary In Toy Ads
Posted: April 12, 2011 in Adolescent DevelopmentTags: Child, Games, Shopping, Television advertisement, Toy, Video Games, Vocabulary, Word Games
I came across an amazing graphic today and just had to share it with you. I’d love to hear what you all think this means, if anything at all. These graphics are word clouds created by the website achilleseffect.com exploring key words used in advertisement of toys for boys and girls. My concern is what messages are [...]
Shame
Posted: February 28, 2011 in Adolescent Development, Anxiety, TeensTags: Anger, Forgiveness, God, Men, People, Relationships, Shame, Thought
Shame is both a feeling and a belief. The feeling is very unpleasant. People usually talk about noticing their face getting red, wanting to run away but finding themselves virtually paralyzed, being unable to maintain eye contact with anyone, losing all their strength and becoming incredibly weak and powerless, feeling totally exposed to people’s scrutiny and criticism, and [...]
What We’re Reading 02/15/2011
Posted: February 15, 2011 in Adolescent Development, Mental Health, Teens, Youth MinistryTags: Poverty
The Rise and Fall of the American Teenager – Thomas Hine This book takes a look at the historical context of the American teenager experience. Hine gives a great overview of the invention and development of the “adolescent” and their unique roles throughout our country’s history. It drags at times but if hang in there you [...]
Basic Brain Function and Emotional Hijacking
Posted: August 26, 2010 in Adolescent Development, Mental Health, TeensTags: Brain, Cerebral Cortex, Conditions and Diseases, Emotion, Health, Limbic System, Neurological Disorders, Trauma and Injuries
Understanding a few basics of what is happening in the brain of an adolescent prior to an impulsive and destructive behavior (i.e., self-injury, fighting, etc.) will help you walk through the lies, negative thoughts, and emotions that often drive these behaviors. The goal is to teach them when they are being hooked by lies from the [...]
Examining False Core Beliefs
Posted: August 18, 2010 in Adolescent Development, Anxiety, Depression, Eating Disorders, Mental Health, Parenting, TeensTags: Albert Ellis, Belief, depression, Happiness, Health, Mental health, Self-esteem, Self-Help
Research has found that a number of core beliefs identified by the psychologist Albert Ellis are consistently linked to self-dislike and depression. I see these in many young people today and they go largely unchallenged by adults because many of the adults in their lives are handicapped by the same irrational beliefs. Below is a [...]
Ten Strategies for Working with Boys
Posted: July 29, 2010 in Adolescent Development, Mental Health, Parenting, Teens, Youth MinistryTags: Boys
Research from Nancy Bayley’s at UCLA showed that for boys more than girls there is indeed a direct link to learning difficulties when early childhood touch and attachment doesn’t occur or occurs inconsistently. In her study, boys who experienced insecure attachment as infants tested out lower in adolescent intellectual skills than girls who did not receive secure attachment. Although [...]
To Be A Boy
Posted: July 21, 2010 in Adolescent Development, Parenting, Teens, Youth MinistryTags: Dating, Male Sexuality, Teen Boys
When I pause and watch the teenage age boys in our community, and when I reflect on my own adolescent experience, I begin to understand the struggle that every boy confronts in his efforts to navigate adolescence. He is faced with a complex set of internal demands: sexual drives, longing to give and receive love, the drive [...]
